The Second Wives CafeOnline support for second wives and stepparentsYou and I Equal Respect: The Formula for Fair Fighting- April 26, 2004 Conflict is an inevitable part of living with another person. When one or both partners may have failed relationships in their past, confrontation and arguments can be especially painful and challenging -- and potentially threaten the new relationship.In this article, educational psychologist Lynne Namka offers guidelines for learning to fight fair.http://secondwivescafe.com/article.php?id=38 The Children of My Heart- April 25, 2004 "Because I love them so absolutely but know I am not their 'real' mother, I find my feelings easily hurt. I am constantly wondering who I am to these children," Cafe member Nicole Leon-Guerrero says in this essay, written on the eve of her in vitro fertilization.http://secondwivescafe.com/article.php?id=37 Dear Next Wife- April 18, 2004 Inspired by a thread on our Wives of Widowers forum, Cafe member Ree Hurley wrote this funny, sweet letter to pass on to her husband's next wife, should Ree happen to die.http://secondwivescafe.com/article.php?id=36 The Drama Triangle: The Three Roles of Victimhood- April 17, 2004 "All happy families resemble one another, but each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way," Tolstoy wrote. Educational psychologist Lynne Namka disagrees. "The three roles of the Drama Triangle are the three main positions that unhappy families play," she writes. People assume the roles of Perpetrator, Rescuer, and Victim, she says, playing out their parts in a dysfunctional family drama that serves to keep them from genuine feelings and growth.http://secondwivescafe.com/article.php?id=35 |